五月庆祝什么节日？

The 2nd Sunday of May… most know right away what's the special occasion. For me, I have to admit I didn't notice it is Mother's Day until the few days ago. It totally slipped my mind. I didn't have any plan and on such highly commercialised day, you can guess we will end up in some restaurant, rushing through our dinner with only choices of set menu.

That is not my thought on Mother's Day. This morning in Church, this was read out and I thought it summed up the exact feeling I have for Mother, Motherhood and Mothering. This was by Amy Young who wrote "A Wide Spectrum of Mothering".

To those who gave birth this year to their first child—we celebrate with you

To those who lost a child this year – we mourn with you

To those who are in the trenches with little ones every day and wear the badge of food stains – we appreciate you

To those who experienced loss through miscarriage, failed adoptions, or running away—we mourn with you

To those who walk the hard path of infertility, fraught with pokes, prods, tears, and disappointment – we walk with you. Forgive us when we say foolish things. We don’t mean to make this harder than it is.

To those who are foster moms, mentor moms, and spiritual moms – we need you

To those who have warm and close relationships with your children – we celebrate with you

To those who have disappointment, heart ache, and distance with your children – we sit with you

To those who lost their mothers this year – we grieve with you

To those who experienced abuse at the hands of your own mother – we acknowledge your experience

To those who lived through driving tests, medical tests, and the overall testing of motherhood – we are better for having you in our midst

To those who have aborted children – we remember them and you on this day

To those who are single and long to be married and mothering your own children – we mourn that life has not turned out the way you longed for it to be

To those who step-parent – we walk with you on these complex paths

To those who envisioned lavishing love on grandchildren -yet that dream is not to be, we grieve with you

To those who will have emptier nests in the upcoming year – we grieve and rejoice with you

To those who placed children up for adoption — we commend you for your selflessness and remember how you hold that child in your heart

And to those who are pregnant with new life, both expected and surprising –we anticipate with you

This Mother’s Day, we walk with you. Mothering is not for the faint of heart and we have real warriors in our midst. We remember you.

Besides the sweet roses and soiled diapers, beyond the physical touch and sniff of the babies' sweet scent, the journey contained indescribable immense emotions - the tears, the inaudible of heart breaking,  the bittersweet feeling when the child grows up yet too soon. 

But let's also not forget the other group who yearns and yet-to-be a mother, or the child who suffered because of a perverted action supposedly to be their guardian angel. These people at this occasion, what's going through their mind is something we probably can never fully understood. While most of us are basked in the glory of flowers, cakes and handmade cakes, perhaps we can offer a prayer for the forgotten. Even in the midst of their trials and pain, they would have benefitted in some form of mothering from the people around them.

and the sweet husband got me these

Happy Mother's Day! To all and everyone!